If life never got any better than today, would you be okay with that? That also means that life would never get any worse. Your today would be your everyday, nobody would die, nobody would move, if you are married you will always be married, if you are single you will always be single. If you were told that this was your lot in life, TODAY, would you be okay with that?
It’s an interesting question because we are hardwired to create plans, goals and visions. We are educated and told about all the things we should seek from our parents. As we get older that pressure mounts because friends, teachers and society gets involved. We all want the latest gadgets, trendy clothes and haircuts because frankly, we are brainwashed to want them. Keeping up with the Joneses you know?
I once read that unhappiness is not an issue with what you do have, but a desire for what you don’t. So, if you could turn that around and stop craving the things that you don’t have…would you be okay?
That’s the funny thing about life. When it’s good, we don’t want it to change. When it’s bad, well we can’t wait for tomorrow to come soon enough. But, life is ever-evolving, ever-changing…so even if you never gained a pound, never ate new foods, never left your apartment, never sought a full-time job, never tried to date…things would still change outside of your control. Your parents will age, your plants may wither, your neighbours may move, and your precious ipad could break. Nothing really ever stays the same.
So, I guess the key is not to look at the big things as your life all the time. Don’t focus on your failed romance, your fight with a friend or your unknown career path as whether or not you have a good life. Try to focus on the tedious day-in-day-out and look at the little changes that take place everyday. If you look long and hard at your day, everyday….maybe you didn’t change your job, your boyfriend or your apartment…but hopefully you did change your underwear.
Focus on the little signs of good you have in your life…the ability to sleep in, choosing your own TV shows, cooking your own food, spending money on vacations of your choosing, knick-knacks nobody else has input on and KNOW, know that even if you found your dream job, could afford your dream home or met the love of your life…some things would change for the worse. Some of the things that you think of trivial in your mundane little life would be the very things you missed greatly once all your dreams came true.
The grass is always greener my friend, so maybe accept that your life is a washed our Polaroid and just look carefully at your background. Maybe there isn’t a picket fence, but at least there is a lawn. Couldn’t say it better myself…http://tinybuddha.com/blog/why-the-grass-is-never-greener-and-how-to-be-happy-today/
People think life is short. Nah, life is long. The next great thing will come to you. Just be ready and let it. – George, Go On
The Ginga Ninja