Is it normal to hear the song “You Make My Dreams Come True” by the great Hall & Oates TWICE in one day? Somehow, I think not. In fact, is it normal to hear this catchy 80’s diddy, 6 times in a month? I know not. Is the universe trying to tell me something?
I recently had a job where every manager seemed to get pregnant shortly after starting the job. I was warned to be careful, or I may be next. I gave a little giggle because to get pregnant there’s a little secret (shhh)….to get pregnant, you have to be having sex.
As a woman who is up to her ears in rehab, consultation projects, cleaning her own apartment, interviewing, visiting friends and family, back at the gym and caring for pets…well, boys haven’t really been given a ton of time until recently. And you know what? They seem to be a pretty big waste of it if I’m honest.
But, are all of these warnings and the crazy sign of hearing “You Make My Dreams Come True” trying to tell me something? Should I be preparing for a life change, or….should I decide that the plain and simple message of that song is simply about me this time. Maybe I make my dreams come true. Plain and simple, isn’t that really the only person who can do that for you anyways?
For a long time…a really long time…I didn’t get that. I didn’t understand that it wasn’t just a matter of being okay single or feeling confident when alone, but being okay alone. For real. Whether there is another person in your future or not, you have to stop envisioning one where another person exists and just try to be happy in yourself no matter where, when, or who that may be with. Stop feeling like you have a void to fill and get ready for a much better problem – trying to actually make time in your busy and fulfilled life for another someone.
In a nutshell, “I make my dreams come true”…and if you are reading this, well, right now YOU are the only other one making my dreams come true because dammit, I kind of really like this writing thing. So, go out and drink, dance, sing, cry, laugh, ponder, shake, fear, love and risk all the things that make you happy, but do it with the awareness that the outcome may not change your tomorrow. It is the comfort, the acceptance, the challenge and the knowledge of these things, these pieces of you, that make life worthwhile.
Charlotte honey, did you ever stop to think that maybe we’re the white nights and we have to save ourselves? – Carrie, Sex and the City
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