If you ask an 18 year old from a small town who is itching to move away and see the world…they will think it is necessary, integral to life and they can’t get that change quick enough. However, ask somebody who has settled down in that same small town and they will tell you they have everything they ever needed. You know, a little John Cougar Mellencamp lyrics throwback. Their friends, their memories, their childhood sweethearts, their jobs….they have everything they have ever known within arms reach, so why would they change anything? If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right?
I just know a hell of a lot of friends think 2014 is the new “it” year – one has even dubbed it the Year of Change. If we are all waiting for a change, it must mean something is missing.
I guess how necessary change is depends on the life you have already had and the life you dream of having. The more you have seen, the more you have done, the more you have tried….well, the more you want to see, the more you want to do, the more you want to try. It’s a bit of a double-edged sword. Maybe ignorance really is bliss. Maybe if we reach for the stars we just spend forever trying to get there and never really appreciate the hill we’ve been standing on to reach all along.
I can for one say that though unavoidable, too much change is not good either. I am one who has seen a lot of it in a short amount of time. Not completely sure what my life’s calling is, not completely sure who I am to end up with (or inevitably if I am my own happily ever after), or even what city I will eventually call home. I have always figured that a job, a person, or a town would make me settle down. That hasn’t happened yet. But, as somebody who has moved countless times, lived in foreign lands, dated various people and now find myself tackling new relationships and a new job again… really, honestly, finally adjusting to my new norm…..I can say that not enough change makes life stagnant and too much makes it chaotic.
Just like everything in life, I think moderation is key. Let’s change opinions about change….it isn’t right or wrong, it isn’t good or bad, it isn’t black or white. It is life-altering, unavoidable and necessary….in small doses.
At some point in time you have to embrace change and move forward to the future. Sometimes change is good. – Carrie Diaries
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