But, for most little girls, their Dad is the one man who will love them forever, good and bad. More often than not a girl knows the song she wants to dance with her father at her wedding, lloonnngg before there is a wedding to even plan. Don’t get me wrong, not every man is meant to be a father and not every father is a good man, but if you were lucky like me…then up and down, approving or disapproving, over the years I still believe my Dad (aside from my elderly male cat) is the longest love I’ve had.
I recently sat on a plane with a very successful and divorced older man; the divorce caused him to re-evaluate his life and dedicate much of it to his daughters. He was around my Dad’s age and I was around his daughter’s age. We had a very interesting discussion about career, life romance and love. I felt like I was talking to my dad….and in all honesty, I think he felt like he was talking to his daughter. He pointed out that he hoped, hoped that his eldest would eventually find a partner, but that he honestly thinks he raised her so well that men are intimidated by her.
It’s funny because that is a statement I have heard over and over throughout the years. It will take a secure man to love me. If you were raised to be successful and you excelled at many things, your standards are high and you were told not to settle, but that in turn means you very well may…actually not settle. However, I very recently came up with a new vantage point on this. If you have a wonderful father – warm, communicative, successful career, handy around the house, likes to cook, cleans, does laundry…and knows music trivia….wouldn’t you measure every man by him? In essence, maybe the fact that I haven’t settled down yet is actually because I am measuring other men by the one man I value most.
So, as a Daddy’s girl I have to say, seriously Dad…I now believe it’s your fault I haven’t settled down. Kidding…well, sort of. But, actually more seriously, thank you for being my Dad. I knew that when I had my first glass of red wine in Paris with my father, I was having it with a man who would love me forever.
Happy Father’s Day to all Dad’s out there, and happy daughters day to all those lucky enough to have a Dad like mine.
The Ginga Ninja